As with anything, it helps to start by clarifying terms.
“How To Find Yourself?“
What does that mean?
We hear many people and teachers in all sorts of communities and committed to all sorts of practices speaking of “finding yourself.” Of course the intentions behind this are noble…but what does it mean exactly?
There is power in paradox, and so we are not afraid to say that finding yourself is both:
-a point that you can arrive at…
…and yet also…
-will always remain a path where you can travel ever further.
The journey that begins with wondering how to find yourself can reach an end point of sorts when you have synthesized the varying elements of your personality. Obviously powerful tools such as meditation exist to aid this integration process.
We all play many roles: child, parent, sibling, spouse, student, teacher, leader, follower etc. Different times and circumstances call for us to wear different “hats.” We feel discord when we’re pulled between different parts of ourselves that we feel conflict.
“Which is the ‘real’ me?” becomes an all-too-common question. Private life versus public, for example, is often a consideration that trips many people up.
In simplest terms, we feel that the “moment” of finding yourself is achieved when equilibrium becomes your default state.
This does not mean that you respond to everything in an unexcited, unemotional manner. It means that your emotions, intuition, and physicality are such that you know the different aspects of your nature and feel the core from which they all issue. You know your goals. You know your desires. You have healthy boundaries and can hear and say “yes” and “no.” And you feel a calm centeredness.
Mostly, you are imbued with a knowing that transcends rationalizations.
The most compelling and charismatic figures are often so imbalanced, so great at certain things and yet in such disarray in other areas of life. Their experiences in the extremes fascinate others and make great fodder for books, movies and TV shows…
The most compelling and charismatic figures are so balanced, so able to strike at any angle of life from a steady, powerful center, so flexible and yet strong, that their personal power draws others in like a magnet. Extraordinary things are accomplished. Life feels fulfilling to them.
Clearly, our aim at How To Find Yourself is to cultivate the latter path!
From this place of synthesis and harmony–even though it is a state, a place that can be achieved–the journey of self discovery continues, albeit in a new context.
The person who lives in that state of graceful centeredness is then able to find more of him or herself in everyone met and everything encountered.
Everything in life becomes “the path.”
All people, places, and things that are interfaced with become mirrors in which to learn more about the self… gifts to receive from, and opportunities to serve. Existence and everything is transformed into an infinite dojo, an eternal adventure.
Clearly, human beings are dynamic. We at How to Find Yourself understand that the two phases that we’re generally describing (point and path) aren’t always rigidly linear.
Some people feel that they embody the graceful harmony and walk the more cosmic path at times, and yet at other times are pulled off center into the ups and downs of “everyday life.”
Words point to things, but words, as we know, are ultimately limited. We offer forth the perspectives of “point” and “path” merely to open the conversation, and hopefully our minds and hearts as well.
Let yourself sit for a moment with what we’re discussing, and move on to the subsequent articles as you see fit.
Join us in further material and let’s see what we discover! Whatever the case, it will be more of ourselves…
This concludes our introduction article.
Our next article begins to discuss the concept of personal vibrations.